The
Disgraceful Behaviour of Muslims at Funerals
By Faizel Patel, Radio Islam News
"Every soul shall have a taste of death; and only on the Day
of Resurrection shall you be paid your full recompense. Only he
who is saved far from the Fire and admitted to Paradise, he indeed
is successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception
(a deceiving thing)." [Surah Al-Imran, verse 185]
The
abhorrent and despicable behaviour by Muslims at funerals leaves
much to be desired. The funeral has become a place of business and
meeting place for old friends to reminisce about ‘old times’,
to idly stand around and engage in worldly chatter and make deals
that has become the norm. This is totally disrespectful to the family
of the deceased who are heartbroken and shattered on losing a loved
one. Have our intellect dwindled or have we lost our moral obligations
when it pertains to funerals?
This
horrid trend seems to be prevalent at most Muslim funerals. It’s
disheartening to witness adults behaving in manner that will even
put a child to shame. Many people have gasped in shock and horror
at the disrespect that people have for the person that passed away.
Here
lies the Janaza (deceased), waiting for the people to gather so
that the Salaah (prayer) could be read, and what do people do? They
keep the Janaza (deceased) waiting, indulging in worldly chatter,
gossiping, procrastinating when making Wudu (ablution) and generally
showing a trait of non-chalance that irk the Ulama (scholars) that
continuously call for the men to gather themselves. At times there
is a delay of up to 20 minutes or even more before the Janaza Salaah
(prayer) begins. The Imam (leader) will continuously quote hadith
(narrations) after hadith (narrations), on that the Janaza Salaah
(prayer) should be performed hastily, but his words fall on deaf
ears...
The
Prophet Muhammad (Peace Be Upon Him) said, “When you see the
deceased (being carried) , then stand up and remain standing until
the deceased goes out of view or it is placed on the ground. (Bukhari,
Ahmad, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Abu Dawood and Nisai)
Can
we begin to fathom that it will be us lying there one day? Would
you accept the disrespect that is prevalent in today's funerals?
What has happened to us, that we have lost the sanctity of the respect
for the funeral and the fear of Allah? We need to be wary that death
is indeed sad, but refute the notion that a gathering at a place
where a funeral is taking place can also be substituted for a means
to reminisce of times with old friends we have not seen in a while.
Indeed
it is not wrong to catch up with old friends that we have not seen
in a while, but such social gatherings and reflections on times
gone by can be prolonged until the conclusion of the funeral which
will then be more appropriate. Let us show the respect and amend
our behaviour when attending funerals and reflect that one day it
could be us lying there.
The
prophet Muhammad (Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam) said: "No single
Muslim who dies and forty Muslims pray the Janaazah (funeral) prayer
for him, and all of them do not associate any deities with Allah,
then Allah will accept their intercession for the deceased."
[Reported by Imams Muslim, Ahmed, and Abu Dawood]
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