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Looking for a magic wand to grant you a long and happy marriage?

The answer is simpler than you think...

In this day and age, in which nearly 50% of all young, newly married couples will end up divorced, it's no wonder people are looking for a quick fix to figure out how to have a long and happy marriage.

But if you want to know the real secret to having a happy marriage, the bottom line is that there is no secret. Happy marriages take time and effort - and they have their rough patches like everyone else.

Making a marriage work takes 100% commitment

One of the primary factors in people who have been married over 40 years is what their thinking was when they entered into the marriage in the first place. Studies have shown that most couples that have been married for decades were 100% committed to the marriage from the very beginning. There was never the thought that there was any out by way of divorce. When these couples married, they felt that divorce was not an option...and, clearly, it wasn't.

Have realistic expectations

These long-term married couples also understood that it's not about having a perfect marriage (there's no such thing). Instead, they compare marriage to a bed of roses with thorns and everything. Whenever two people come together to share a life there are bound to be frustrations and problems and embarrassments. That's called life. It's not always easy to forgive your spouse for hurtful comments said in the heat of anger, but without those moments you can't learn to appreciate the good times.

Try to celebrate your differences rather than resent them

You have to be willing to share your thoughts and feelings with your spouse - the good, the bad, the ugly, and the hateful. People are supposed to be different, and those differences sometimes result in feelings of anger and resentment. Keeping those feelings in, however, just escalates things to the point where both parties shut down and are unable to empathise anymore. By sharing your feelings (even if they're counter to your spouse's) in the early stages, you'll be able to work through any issues that will arise.

Make time for each other

People in happy marriages also take the time to dine and enjoy each other's company away from children, jobs, and other stressors. This can mean taking a quiet vacation to a mountain lodge or even something as simple as locking the bedroom door for 15 minutes and ignoring the sounds of the kids fighting downstairs. You have to take that time to stay in touch with one another. Making the effort to dine alone even when you've been married for years goes a long way towards keeping the romance alive.

Most important of all...

But the number one factor that people said accounted for a long, happy marriage?

Respect

Respect leads to trust, fosters connections, and maintains love. You can respect someone without loving them, but you cannot love someone whom you do not respect and have that love sustain itself over the years.

So, the secret to a happy marriage is no secret at all. It's looking at the other person realistically and accepting that no one, absolutely no one has the perfect marriage. It just doesn't exist. But while you may not have a perfect marriage, you can have a happy marriage. It will be a lot of work, there will be tears, there will be heartache, but in the end, you'll still have each other.

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A man woke up early in order to pray the Fajr prayer in the masjid. He got dressed, made his ablution (Wudhu) and was on his way to the Masjid. On his way to the Masjid, the man fell and his clothes got dirty. He got up, brushed himself off, and headed home.

At home, He changed his clothes, made his ablution, and was, again, on his way to the Masjid. On his way to the Masjid, He fell again at the same spot! He, again, got up, brushed himself off and headed home.

At home, once again, he changed his clothes, made ablution and was on his way to the Masjid. On his way to the Masjid, He met a man holding a lamp. He asked the man of his identity and the man replied 'I saw you fall twice on your way to the Masjid,so I brought a lamp to light your way.' The man thanked him and the two where on their way to the Masjid. At the Masjid, the first man asked the man with the lamp to come in and pray Fajr with him. The second man refused. The first man asked him a couple more times and, again, the answer was the same. The first man asked him why he did not wish to come in and pray.

The man replied... I am Shaytaan. The man was shocked at this reply. Shaytaan went on to explain, 'I saw you on your way to the Masjid and it was I who made you fall. When you went home, cleaned yourself and went back on your way to the Masjid, Allah forgave all of your sins. I made you fall a second time, and even that did not encourage you to stay home, but rather, you went back on your way to the Masjid. Because of that, Allah forgave all the sins of the people of your household. I was AFRAID if i made you fall one more time, then Allah will forgive the sins of the people of your village, so I made sure that you reached the Masjid safely...'

MORAL: Do not let Shaytaan benefit from his actions. Do not put off a good that you intended to do as you never know how much reward you might receive from the hardships you encounter while trying to achieve that good.

Submitted by BABI ESSOP

Always be considerate to one's subordinates and employees. Although they may be working under you, this does not mean that they do not have rights or that their needs are subservient to your convenience. One should always be mindful of their needs and commitments. Especially if they are rendering some service to you that requires payment, you should pay them their due without unnecessary delay. In fact, Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has instructed that an employer should pay his employee his due as soon as he completes the job.

Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Umar Radiyallahu Anhuma narrates that Rasulullah Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: "Pay the worker for his work before his sweat dries"

(Ibn Majah, Hadith #: 2443)

Submitted by YOUNUS ALI

CHICKEN AND CORN TRIANGLES
3 Tbsp ghee or oil - 1 onion sliced - 1 tsp whole jeeroo - 2 1/2 cups chicken fillet, cubed - pounded green and garlic, to taste - 1 tsp salt - 1/2 tsp fine black pepper - 1/2 cup crushed vermicelli - 1/2 cup water - 215 g can cream style sweetcorn - 1/4 cup flour - 8 Tbsp water.

A wife asked her husband to describe her. He said "You're A B C D E F G H I J K." She said "What's that mean?" He said "Adorable Beautiful Cute Delightful Elegant Foxy Gorgeous Humorous." She said "Ooohh that's so lovely - but what about I J K?"

He said

"I'm Just Kidding."

Submitted by ATLANTIC SALES

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